"As his best friend, critical – perhaps most critical – listener and conversation partner, I would like to thank you for the countless golden moments you offered him, and by implication, also me and the family. Thank you for your warm-heartedness and love."
With these words Mrs Beryl Botman, wife of the late Prof Russel Botman, Rector and Vice-Chancellor of Stellenbosch University, expressed her appreciation for the University community's support for her husband during his term of office and the Botman family after his sudden passing on 28 June 2014. The Botman couple's two Matie daughters, Ilse and Roxanne, also wrote a thank you message each.
In newspaper placements this week, Mrs Botman and the family also expressed their thanks and appreciation for the hundreds of messages of condolence and tributes received from the many individuals and interest groups after the passing of Prof Botman.
Mrs Beryl Botman's message of thanks
"Hayman Russel Botman was an employee at Stellenbosch University for fourteen and a half years, initially as associate professor in the Faculty of Theology. While both his parents were still alive, he had the privilege to share his inaugural lecture as full professor with them. Russel and his brother, Deon, followed in their father's footsteps. His proud parents experienced his career and his great success with joy and appreciation.
"Thank you so much that he always received more invitations from the University community than he could ever accept. Thank you that many of those invitations also included me. Through these events we could get to know each other better as a couple, understand each other better and also cherish each other.
"It was important to Russel to be successful – for the sake of the future and as he often said 'for the next generation'. In addition he was also known for the following: 'I do not work for myself, but for the next rector'. He devoted himself to this goal. It would be dishonest to infer that this commitment and dedication did not come at a high cost to himself, our marriage and our family ties. He roped us in, however, and included us so gracefully in his work and commitments that we did not even notice that he was working and that we were enjoying ourselves. But… he was most definitely working!
As his best friend, critical – perhaps most critical – listener and conversation partner, I would like to thank you for the countless golden moments that you offered him, and by implication, also me and the family. Thank you for your warm-heartedness and love. We were aware of it; we felt it; it gave us strength; we could rely on it. Our daughters, Ilse and Roxanne, have made their own contributions as Botman Maties, but as the rector's wife it was an enjoyable experience to engage with Maties. Together with Russel I also believe that our future is in good hands if it depends on you.
"To all of you who make SU work, thank you so much! Your success was Russel's success; your troubles and sadness, were also his; as was your humiliation, your joy and your happiness. Thank you to the vast majority of the University community who treated Russel with dignity and respect. With that very same dignity and respect – and style – you also laid him to rest. A million times over, thank you…
"And now I would like to conclude: firstly in the authentic Cape Afrikaans vernacular, and then in the many ways that I have been addressed on campus over many years.
"Is lekke om 'n Matie te wies!"*
Beryl, mev Botman, Mevrou, Juffrou, Tannie, Antie, Mrs Botman, Ma'am, Ma, Nkosikazi, Mme en Liewe Beryltjie.
* Translated: "Is nice to be a Matie!" A Matie is a student at Stellenbosch University.
Ilse Botman's message of thanks
"The connection between my father and the Stellenbosch University community is a special one. The student body especially was close to his heart, with him often saying that he viewed the students as though they were his own children. I was fortunate enough to also be a student and I found it to be an environment where I felt comfortable to explore myself and other people and cultures that were new to me, over and above the good education I received. It's also a time when I realised that my experience and the skills I gained should to be used, unselfishly, for the good of the greater community.
"A special thanks to the support and general workers at the university. Whether it was a locked residence door, fixing a doorbell or even making a cup of tea – thank you. My father liked things to be aesthetically pleasing and for everything to work. The University is well maintained and immaculate and that is evidence of your dedication.
"My father was a man with vision and had a passion for the future – one of the pillars of hope he had. By playing a role in the education and foundation of the country's future leaders, he was doing his part to build the future he would have liked for us all. To produce productive members of society, and productive leaders.
"To the student body, thanking for making his passion come alive, keeping him positive, resilient and excited – his memory lives on in your successes. To the staff, thank you for buying into his vision and helping him make it a reality."
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Roxanne Botman's message of thanks
"They say that my father lives on through his wife and four children, but my father also lives on through all his students. He has always been very proud of his students and he worked hard to create a fresh, exciting, and inclusive environment. Being one of his students as well, I was encouraged to make my time as a student less selfish. It is a privilege to be a student and it is important that the opportunity is used to improve communities and the world – not only ourselves.
"My hope for Stellenbosch University is that all students, as well as staff, embrace the transformation and vision my father worked hard for. But not only embrace it, also enjoy the changes that are already happening. Enjoy the fact that we are different in race, culture, sexuality, ability and religion. These differences made Russel Botman's life exciting and the beauty of bringing us all together kept his hope alive until the day he died.
"May you respect the fact that your residence roommate has a lifestyle and background you are not familiar with. May your unfamiliarity spark conversations of understanding and new friendships. It is through such conversations that we learn how to make significant improvements to our society.
"Thank you for making my father happy. Continue to make him proud."
